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about the term “enby” 

please don’t use “enby“ as a catch-all term for non-binary people.
many people, me included, don’t like to use it for themselves, often because they feel it sounds infantilizing/childlike (a bit as if one was talking about a baby) – it feels like it has an inherent “cuteness” to it that’s not inherent to being non-binary, thus possibly making people feel dysphoric.
so instead of calling all non-binary people “enbies”, please just call non-binary people “non-binary people” – and use the term “enby” only for people who like being called enbies.

about the term “enby” 

while creating this post, i also found other internet pages about this issue:
Jamie LeClaire also criticizes the fact that “enby” is used as a noun while other words describing (marginalized) groups aren’t (as in, you wouldn’t just call someone “a gay” – if you’re not part of the community, i guess):
instagram.com/p/B2kL30PBaKj
and here’s a question on reddit that very much describes the problem many people have with the word:
reddit.com/r/NonBinary/comment
and a tumblr post talking about why enby became a thing and that non-binary people came up with this term, and when and why not to use it
rappinforjegus.tumblr.com/post

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@sk are there alternative nouns applicable for you specifically maybe

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@kescher nope! (except person, and maybe girl if you’re feeling very experimental)

about the term “enby” 

@sk@catcatnya.com Well, enby was coined as the non-binary equivalent to boy and girl and should also be used as such (ie not for adults that don't like it)

about the term “enby” 

@sk@catcatnya.com what we need is an equivalent for man and woman, I propose nonbinean

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@himbeer do we, tho? (/rhethoric; i think we really don’t) i don’t want to non-consensually be called “a nonbinean” either. for me, being non-binary very much includes opting out of my gender being described using a random noun.

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@sk@catcatnya.com That was a joke. ffs I hate this place

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@himbeer oh okay, i didn’t get that it was (a tone indicator like /s for sarcastic would’ve been helpful)

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@sk@catcatnya.com I was hoping nonbinean sounds ridiculous enough. I'll try to keep it in mind

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@himbeer thanks!

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@himbeer @sk There’s already "enban" (plural: "enben") around for exactly that :)

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@trisschen @himbeer (which i would still not like to be used for me / all non-binary people)

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@sk@catcatnya.com @trisschen@tech.lgbt Yeah, that is somehow even worse than nonbinean.
Really, "person" (and other neutral terms) and whatever someone describes tehmselves as are the only things someone should use to refer to someone else.
Even for people in the gender binary, some 25 year olds might be fine being called boy and girl, some not.

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@himbeer @sk

I'm a fan of "enbean" as the adult equivalent of "enby " /hj

about the term “enby” 

@sk@catcatnya.com it's used as noun because it is one????
Boy and girl are nouns, too.

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@himbeer @sk Also I want to point out that … yes, I would call someone a gay or a lesbian (like, as nouns, which is even more clear in my native language; definitely wouldn’t do that with trans though and would consider that offensive and transmisic)

It’s certainly way more colloquial though. Maybe also kinda reclaiming? (I.e. I myself wouldn’t say 'a gay' (exclusively male) in my native language, but wouldn’t be surprised about gay men doing it)

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@trisschen @himbeer oh yeah definitely, “a gay” is definitely something people say and i think it depends on the context. i guess if you’re not “a gay” yourself (or otherwise not part of the queer community), you probably wouldn’t just call someone “a gay” (except i think “the gays” is widely used by now)

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@sk hey, i like this. I defined as enby when I just came out, but started to dislike the term for exactly the reasons you wrote. Now I call myself non-binary, which is a lot better.

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@sk
I find the entire naming scheme difficult to comprehend. "Enby" resulted from the short form of Non binanary (NB). It has the same meaning but just makes it more difficult to research and find differences. It's kind of the same with cooking pans and pansexuals. Doesn't feel right but means the right thing.

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@Elysian hmmm.. i feel like this isn’t really related to what i meant, but yeah, i think i know what you mean

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